As a single girl in my thirties who was committed, by God's grace, to saving sex for marriage, I often felt very much like that caged lion.
But it was in those desperate moments that I found God to be exactly who He claims to be.
But after being in the church for many years and seeing several Christian couples interact with one another, I’m convinced that many would-be happy dating Christians are anxious and joyless simply because they’re putting too much pressure on the relationship. If you like the girl you’re dating, and she actually likes you, then you should probably get married. I proposed to Denise after about six months of dating, but we’ve been (best! Non-Christians won’t get you, and they may call you prude or weird or whatever for intentionally pursuing marriage. Listen and be kind, but you just may have to ignore the naysayers.
Men, if you’re serious about the girl you’re dating (as you should be), then pursue her friendship. Then read , and keep doing point number one listed above. Paul makes over 200 references to union with Christ in the New Testament. Feast on the gospel daily, and allow the power of the Spirit to empower your pursuit of purity.
I don’t know a single Christian dating couple that hasn’t struggled with sexual temptation, whether in thought or deed.
Most of the posts I’ve read online about Christian dating have been artificial, surface-level kind of stuff. And often we Christians tend to over-complicate and hyper-spiritualize everything.
As Denise and I start pre-marital counseling and begin this new journey together, I’ve been thinking about our time in the awkward middle — you know, when you’re not married or single. I’ve intentionally made this post brief because I think that we can over-complicate dating. The most important thing you should focus on is your personal character. Some of the popular points are helpful, but they never seem to address the . I’m no dating guru and have never claimed to be one.
Here are a few of the ways that helped me: Dear one, there is so much at stake in our battle for purity. Every last one of us has fallen short of God's purity in one way or another, and we all are in desperate need of His grace. Keep fighting and trusting by the power of the Spirit that is at work within you. What is one promise or habit you can apply to your own fight for purity?
What part of your struggle has left you feeling isolated?How can you reach out for encouragement and accountability this week?